The year of magical thinking, Joan Didion
The book sat on my shelf for a few weeks, staring.
Well we all have someone to grieve I guess. And as I tried to make a decision, I knew I should expect this memoir to bring it all up again.
My reading place is the bed. Half an hour, an hour every night. So I read the first pages before going to sleep.
Dreams were terrible and revealing and I must say they also made me pretty angry: am I still there?
So I read the rest of the book in public places, or while doing something else, or even at work. This distracted me and forced me to compose myself and, basically, try not to cry.
Joan Didion starts to write a year after her husband's death, which falls on her just before dinner, right after visiting their daughter at the hospital. The following year is like a broken record that keeps playing the same note - where is the beloved person, could I have done something to save him, how could I possibly not think I still had so much to tell him, how could he come back if I gave away all his shoes?
And as time passes, what were we doing today last year?
Then the year is over, and this question has no answers.
We stopped talking about death in our society. Dionne refers to a few authoritative sources to explain the sense of shame and guilt about death and grieving. This is not an easy read, and leaves you nothing more than awareness.
And Mrs Didion survived.
Just don't read it before going to sleep.
Well we all have someone to grieve I guess. And as I tried to make a decision, I knew I should expect this memoir to bring it all up again.
My reading place is the bed. Half an hour, an hour every night. So I read the first pages before going to sleep.
Dreams were terrible and revealing and I must say they also made me pretty angry: am I still there?
So I read the rest of the book in public places, or while doing something else, or even at work. This distracted me and forced me to compose myself and, basically, try not to cry.
Joan Didion starts to write a year after her husband's death, which falls on her just before dinner, right after visiting their daughter at the hospital. The following year is like a broken record that keeps playing the same note - where is the beloved person, could I have done something to save him, how could I possibly not think I still had so much to tell him, how could he come back if I gave away all his shoes?
And as time passes, what were we doing today last year?
Then the year is over, and this question has no answers.
We stopped talking about death in our society. Dionne refers to a few authoritative sources to explain the sense of shame and guilt about death and grieving. This is not an easy read, and leaves you nothing more than awareness.
And Mrs Didion survived.
Just don't read it before going to sleep.






